Spirituality, not Religion
Throughout my entire life, I didn’t feel connected to any religion or practice. I was raised in a Muslim family and attended an Arabic curriculum school with intensive Islamic classes. This meant I was greatly exposed to an extremist version of Islam. But, because my parents weren’t religious – they practiced on and off – I was also praying on and off while growing up.
These days, I find that meditation and doing the inner work (whether on my own or by attending wellness retreats) makes me feel centered, grounded and calm like no other religious practice or prayer. I don’t judge anyone who practices any kind of religion, and I expect others to respect my views and choosing spirituality over religion.
The Holiday Season: Healing from Childhood Wounds
I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse and other negative childhood experiences. As I don’t follow any specific religion or practice, the holiday celebrations (whether Islamic or Christian) don’t apply to my schedule or days at all. It may seem like everyone else is having an amazing, loving time with their families and friends. However, I understand that my life situation is different. This doesn’t make me feel inferior or unworthy of love and connection.
What might look like a lack or downside, can actually be a huge advantage and blessing. As someone who’s on a highly rewarding and exciting healing journey, I get to spend the holiday season focusing on my growth, evolution and recovery. I don’t compare myself or my life with anyone because each individual’s path is unique and original.
How to Spend the Holidays when Healing from Childhood Wounds
- Practice gratitude and count your blessings such as the gift of life and good health.
- Acknowledge how far you’ve reached in your healing journey; be proud of your progress.
- Focus on self-love, self-compassion and self-understanding.
- Take time off for self-care, meditation or simply going for a mindful walk.
- Create space in your home for new things by decluttering and getting rid of unnecessary items.
- Initiate the ending of relationships that no longer serve you and make you feel seen and valued.
I was raised in a dysfunctional family, so we didn’t properly celebrate any Muslim holiday. Despite this, I completely accepted my life situation at that time and fully embrace it. I don’t live with my family anymore. Now, I don’t seek validation from others to feel worthy or loved. I also don’t look for friends to celebrate any festive holiday with.
We must embrace our current reality with all of its pros and cons. Learning to acknowledge our life situations and trust the process is always in our best interest. So, instead of wanting things to be different, focus on what you can gain. Consider how you can grow from this reality. Healing from childhood wounds takes time. However, consider this time as a valuable opportunity for personal development and spiritual growth.
And always remember, the Universe is by your side and guiding you every step of the way.