I asked a friend in town on a visit if she was taking any action to manifest her person. Her reply was: “I want to focus on loving myself this year. Because I feel like I need to do that first.”
Although she’s only 28 and turning 29 in April, she’s very mature, and we’ve been good friends since we met at Murdoch University Dubai.
The thing is that each one of us is on a unique path, and that’s why you should never compare your life to anyone else’s.
Because my friend was in a situation where she had to take care of others, she wasn’t prioritizing herself and her needs. She was always prioritizing her family members over herself. I’m happy that she finally reached a place where she recognizes the value of loving herself and prioritizing her needs.
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I learned the value of prioritizing myself early on in life. It’s a long story, but I always put myself and my well-being first. Simple things each day. I never turn on my phone until after I meditate, have breakfast, and decide on my plan for the day.
With Valentine’s Day in about a week, I wanted to remind you to love yourself more and always to prioritize your well-being and emotional health.
What you can do if you’re single
This morning, I went out to run some errands as I had to register my mobile number with my new Emirates ID card. I treated myself to coffee twice – once before heading to the telecom provider store – and the second after my trip.
Having a good cup of coffee at a cafe is a ritual that makes me feel good and brings me joy. Because I’m a writer and a deep-thinker, I enjoy sitting alone at cafes, planning, getting random things done, or simply checking social media.
Try and find a daily ritual that makes you feel good about yourself. It can be as simple as having a good cup of coffee at your favorite cafe.
My friend also realized that she couldn’t be helpful to others if her cup is empty. This means she has to take care of herself first and then lend a helping hand to others, including family members.
Another thing you can do is buy yourself a bouquet of roses or flowers of your choice. I was planning to go to a lovely flower shop to get a bouquet arranged, but this morning when I went to the store, I saw a fabulous fiery orange roses bouquet and decided to get it.
I wrote a blog post a while back with some Feng Shui tips for attracting a relationship. You can read it here.
One of the tips reads: “Add fiery colors to your bedroom and apartment. You don’t have to replace all your furniture to follow this tip. You can add accessories in your bedroom and the rest of your apartment that have fiery colors like orange, red, and yellow hues.”
After I chose the bouquet, I realized that the colors are perfect for manifesting a relationship: fiery orange roses!
Embrace where you are in your journey.
Unlike my 28-year-old friend, I feel like I’ve already invested a lot of energy in loving myself and did a good amount of work in that area. I’m at a great place when it comes to setting firm boundaries, and I continue to show myself love each day.
Because I built my self-worth and am at a good place regarding self-love and self-respect, I feel like this year is different for me. I finally have the capacity and headspace to take inspired action to date and manifest my person.
We must embrace and honor where we are in our spiritual growth and healing journey.
So if you feel like you still have work to do in loving yourself and that you’re still people-pleasing and not good with setting boundaries, then I advise you to focus on loving yourself more.
But if like me, you’ve done a lot of work in that area and are ready to date and to have successful dating experiences, then explore ways to take action and make things happen in your love life.
Each person has a unique life path, so focus on yourself and don’t compare yourself with anyone else or where they are in their life.
Lover Yourself First
I will go back to writing Dating Sunday blog posts on the Soul Collective blog. So stay tuned.
Until then, let me know where you are in your self-love journey. Do you feel like you still have some work to do when it comes to prioritizing yourself and your needs? Or do you feel ready to explore the world of dating and connecting with new matches?
Happy Early Valentines’ Day, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts on my post!