Last night was fun. I truly switched up my routine by attending a friend’s birthday dinner at a new Japanese restaurant in Downtown Dubai.
It’s been a year since I’ve gone out for dinner or drinks. I went out once and dated myself – that was fun too.
I was basically avoiding socializing in this pandemic season. And mostly focusing on my business and manifesting.
Last night’s social gathering inspired this blog post. We were a group of strong, independent confident women.
I noticed that the ladies were leaders and high-achievers in their careers. They were doing great in their work life and they were highly successful.
I also noticed that when it came to their love life, they were applying the same principles that they use in career and that’s where the problem is.
I want to start by saying that I’m not writing this post to judge anyone – in fact I used to be like that myself. They basically reflected the old me – before I did the deep inner work and shedding the layers of conditioning.
If anyone knows this well, it’s me. I deeply understand how our life situations force us to live from a masculine energy and this hugely shapes our personality.
Unhealthy Feminine Energy
You might be wondering what made me describe these women as more masculine than feminine. So let me share with you some of the main traits of a woman who’s not living from a healthy feminine space.
- Chases love
- Insecure attachment style
- Insecure – seeks outside validation
- Tries to find safety outside of herself
- Lives from a mind-identified place
- Isn’t tuned into her intuition or heart space
These are the main traits that you could be applying in your dating life, not knowing that these are unhealthy ways to be acting or living from.
I used to be all of these things and more. That’s why I write this post because I would love to support you in having successful dating experiences and manifesting real love.
The unhealthy feminine is also very rigid, closed off, guarded, goal-oriented and in her mind most of the time.
Healthy Feminine Energy
After four years of deep inner work and spiritual growth workshops, I can tell you that I now live from this place of divine feminine energy.
Here are the traits of the healthy feminine energy:
- Playful, expressive
- Authentic – knows who she is
- Intuitive – trusts her gut and heart over the mind
- Vibrates with energy and sound
- Creates, births and manifests
- Connects authentically
- Sensual and affectionate
What really breaks my heart is that these women are so well-traveled, well-cultured and intelligent. They are amazing, successful and independent women.
All that’s missing for them to have a successful dating life is leaning into their feminine essence. And this takes persistence in doing the inner work and working with a certified coach.
I can tell you that I personally had to do a lot of spiritual growth work and healing to get to where I am today: with a secure attachment style, open, expressive, soft, flowing with life and trusting/enjoying the manifestation process!
If you want some simple, practical tips for leaning into your feminine side, check out this blog post.
And if you feel called to work with a coach who gets you and understands your journey and life situation, then get in touch!
My one-on-one coaching for April is now open. I offer both online (using Zoom Meeting) and in-person (Dubai Marina) sessions!
Do you feel like you’re living from a more masculine place? do you live in flow or are you rigid and trying to force things?