Why you Keep Checking to See if your Desire is Here
I must admit that when I first started using the law of attraction, I kept checking my reality for evidence. I still do sometimes but the energy behind that is more subtle now.
I would feel so hopeless and disappointed that my person hasn’t show up in my reality yet.
The fact that I was using different manifestation methods and still not seeing any results drove me crazy!
Like you, I would wonder if the law of attraction actually works for manifesting a partner.
The reason is that if you want to manifest something big like a relationship, you must first do the inner work that transforms your personality and energy into the person who can attract and keep that partnership. In other words, you must work on changing your self-concept.
If you keep checking the 3D for evidence, the chances are that you’re still not the person who’s aligned with that new timeline and reality.
Living in the End
What does living in the end mean? What this manifestation concept means is that you’re already living as the future version of you that already has the healthy and loving relationship.
So instead of checking your 3D reality for evidence that your desire is on its way, you start living from a state of being that matches your future reality or dream life.
When you live from that place, you no longer wait for the desire to show up. Instead, you start living your life from a place of trust and calmness.
Let me share an example. One of my favorite hobbies is cooking and improving my skills. This hobby is in alignment with my future self and dream life.
Although I didn’t grow up with a mother who taught me how to cook, I self-taught myself and I’m still learning and practicing the skill.
I enjoy grocery shopping, looking for new recipes and trying them out, expanding my skills to the next level and repeating recipes to make them right.
This is one way that I’m ‘living in the end’ and no longer waiting for my person to show up. I also love listening to jazz while I write or cook.
What ‘living in the end’ does is that it matches your energy or vibration to that of your future self and life. That’s how you get closer to the timeline where you’re part of a couple and no longer single.
What Manifestation Experts Don’t Tell you
What I find interesting is that most manifestation experts – or random people on X – keep repeating the same advice.
These people keep telling you to live and feel as if you already have your desire. Which is true.
But they miss out on how to get there and that’s the most important part!
You can’t walk, talk, feel and live as if you already have your person if you still didn’t do the inner work to shift your self-concept.
What this means is that you need to become a different person to manifest love and a healthy relationship.
So if you’re like my old self, you keep checking your 3D for evidence and wondering why your person is still not part of it, then I encourage you to invest in doing the inner work to shift your personality and energy to match that of your future self.
I can confidently tell you that if you’re still in that phase of manifestation, then your energy is definitely not aligned with the timeline that’s enjoying a loving relationship.
To save you time and effort (and money), I wrote an ebook about how I build my self-worth and shifted my self-concept to be in the energy of my future self and life.
The process of how to get from checking your 3D for evidence to feeling like you already have your desire isn’t a magical overnight step. It’s all about shifting your old patterns to healthy ones, learning how to set boundaries, attracting kindness instead of abuse or toxicity and of course feeling worthy of love and respect.
This is the missing step that most manifestation experts don’t mention. And it’s because it’s a long process that takes commitment and effort.
Feeling as if you already have your desire isn’t a magical instant shift. It’s a process of doing the inner work and becoming a totally different person!
Get my ebook from this page and start the process of shifting your self-concept today.
Love,
Leela
