Why Do We Chase?
If you were raised in a home where getting good grades, hard work and success were top values, then you will get what I’m trying to share with you today.
Because I have a competitive personality, I always try to achieve my goals before others. And I must admit that I always try to race to make things happen in my reality.
Most of the time, I’m not competing with anyone but my old self! You know, I try to catch up on life. Because as someone who grew up in a toxic home environment, I had to learn everything on my own and start things later than others.
Although I accept this fact and I don’t try to resist it, I do find myself racing to get to the next phase of my life.
And manifesting a relationship is one of these main things.
We were all taught (especially Gen X) that we must work hard to get anything that we aim for in life.
And this applies to literally anything and everything that we’re trying to achieve.
So when it comes to manifesting love, I was applying this same principle! And guess what? That’s the wrong way to use the law of attraction.
What this energy of chasing and desperation does is delay the manifestation process, because it’s a totally misaligned vibration.
Potato Head Suites Wishing Altar
In the summer of 2024, I stayed at Potato Head Suites in Seminyak for two weeks. There was a wishing altar or tree in the courtyard, where people wrote wishes at the full moon.
I remember when I was reading some wishes on the tree one day, when a restaurant supervisor told me that whatever is written on the piece of paper will definitely come true.
There was a wish from someone who lived in Saudi that read about him wanting to come back to Bali. The restaurant supervisor told me with a very confident tone: “Then he will definitely be back to Bali.”
Of course I was so excited to hear that every single wish on the wish tree will come true.
My wish was for a peaceful heart and state of being. To feel centered, calm and grounded.
Although it took a year and about three months for my wish to come true, it did eventually happen.
I remember feeling a powerful energy shift around early October of last year. I felt a strong sense of calmness and peace. I could relax and trust the manifestation process.
And that’s exactly the type of energy that matches your ideal relationship and future life.
You want to feel calm, relaxed and open to receiving your desire and dream life.
Because what might work for other areas of your life, doesn’t apply to manifesting love.
What the energy of chasing and working hard does is create resistance and delays the manifestation process.
When you relax and trust the Universe, things start to align faster and come together in the 3D.
I can’t lie and say that I’ve been living in that state of peacefulness since last October.
My energy (and thoughts) bounce from trusting and feeling relaxed to trying to control the process a thousand times each day!
But what really matters is bringing awareness to your state of being and centering yourself back to the energy of peace and relaxation whenever you feel the sense of trying to control things creep up.
Next Monday, I will share another manifestation mistake (that I’m also guilty of doing) and it’s also related to self-awareness.
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Love,
Leela
