Post Shadow Mercury Retrograde
We’re still in the post shadow Mercury Retrograde phase and I’m still having vivid dreams and feeling the heavy energy strongly until today.
I know that there’s a Venus Retrograde that ends on April 12. Then, an eclipse that ends on the 27th of April.
So, I think that we have to wait until the end of this month to feel better and lighter.
It has been a long and exhausting retrograde but there’s always major shifts that come with it. And that’s what helps us manifest faster and release years of karmic cycles and patterns.
Solo Travel Question
Today, I wanted to ask the single women a serious question about solo travel. It’s something that I’ve experienced over and over again and I really want to get another perspective on this topic.
I used to listen to a certain Law of Attraction podcast (I stopped listen to podcasts a long time ago) where the hosts discussed traveling while manifesting your person.
One of the podcast hosts was advising the listeners to travel solo to the places that they like and then when they’re in a relationship, they can revisit the same places with their partner.
The truth is that I realized – the hard way (LOL) – that this advise is not correct and harmful even.
There were countless trips that I made to destinations or hotels which were suited more for couples or groups of friends or families where I felt uncomfortable for making these decisions.
For example, I went to the Amalfi coast and stayed in many luxury hotels before realizing that I didn’t want to venture out into the nearby islands alone. I missed out on going to Capri and other islands because I didn’t want to do it alone (especially after experiencing Southern Italy alone).
I wrote about a specific encounter at a luxury chain hotel in Seminyak, Bali where the local waitress kept asking if I was staying at the hotel alone and would express her surprise. That encounter wasn’t a one-time thing since I stayed at the hotel for three weeks while on a six-month Bali trip. The waitress worked at the restaurant and the encounters happened at breakfast. I later understood that the hotel caters towards groups of friends or families and maybe couples. But that it’s not for solo travelers.
The worst experience of my solo travels happened at Pissouri Bay in Cyprus. You can read that story here.
I can describe my ten days spent in a luxury hotel in that boring town as painful and a real breakthrough.
After I published that blog post, a reader commented with her thoughts about solo travel. She shared that she’s an older woman and advised me to visit places or stay at hotels that are suited for single people.
I’ll be honest and say that at first, her advice didn’t really sink in and I still wasn’t convinced that I needed to be selective with my hotel choices based on my single status.
A few years later, I’m now booking hotels in Bali for my next trip and making sure that they’re not for couples or groups of friends. I can report that it’s more challenging to find hotels or accommodation options with this new criteria but I’m almost done choosing all the hotels and places to stay for my trip this summer! LOL
It was a real struggle to find these places in Bali but I managed. And I’m also sacrificing by taking this new route. Because of my new hotel criteria, I’m skipping staying in Seminyak altogether!
I must say that I’m glad that I only started applying this filter to my hotels recently. Because I already stayed in all the nice resorts in Seminyak – which are not for solo travelers but are so upscale and classy.
Acting As If Versus Making Peace with Being Single
In the past, while applying the law of attraction principles, I was ‘acting as if’ I was already in a loving relationship. What this meant was booking hotels and traveling as if I’m already in a relationship. I would even eat at fine dining restaurants alone and do everything as if I was already in a relationship!
What I realized is that this way of living has its downsides. Basically, the romantic destinations that I visited alone (like the Amalfi Coast) left an irreversible wound or mark that can’t be forgotten.
So when I eventually manifest my person, I won’t be excited to go back to the destinations where I felt deep pain and loneliness for being single (Pissouri Bay, I’m talking about you).
In a way, solo travel has left a very bad mark on certain destinations that I would’ve liked to visit with a lover. And now I’m not so sure if I want to go back to them (which is the opposite of what the LOA podcast hosts encouraged us to do).
After over a decade of solo travel for leisure, I learned the hard way, that I need to make peace with being single and live in alignment with this life situation. No matter how chronic it is and how much I hate it.
I’ll be reporting after the summer with how I felt after choosing Bali hotels that are not catering for couples or groups of friends or families. I’ll share the hotel names and the experiences, good and bad.
If you’re a single woman (or man) who travels solo and can afford to stay at high-end luxury hotels or resorts, do you choose destinations and hotels based on your single status? Or do you just go with what you feel like doing and then discover (or regret) a certain choice?
When manifesting your person, do you ‘act as if’ you have your dream lover and life? Or do you embrace being single with all its good and bad aspects? Do you feel like you made total peace with being single?
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this topic!
Love,
Leela
