Feeling Tired of Being Single?
Today, I scheduled an AC cleaning service for my apartment’s AC’s. I only get this service done around once a year. But I had a water leakage from the ceiling two years ago and I’ve been more careful and mindful of maintenance since then.
The leakage wasn’t exactly a result of lack of maintenance though. I did hire a team to get the AC units serviced right before the leakage happened. But because the company wasn’t a professional one, the technicians weren’t very skilled and I just discovered that they didn’t close the pipe properly and that’s what caused the leakage. The ceiling is still damaged and I’m not sure when I’ll get it repaired.
The reason that I shared this story is to say that having to do everything on my own is one major part of why I hate being single. I even reached the level of knowing the different parts of the AC unit that need to cleaned and serviced! That’s how advanced my single status is right now.
I remember sharing the ceiling leakage story with some new friends that I met while hosting live jazz music meetups on the website meetup.com (I no longer have an account on that site or host any meetups).
When I shared the story of how tired I am of being single and having to do everything on my own, one woman had a poker face expression and was silent (staring in the air and not facing me) and the other woman said something along the lines of I can hire someone to fix it. The second woman was basically staying in serviced hotel apartments and didn’t have a permanent home in the UAE.
Essentially, their situation was worse than mine and that explains their lack of empathy towards my single life story. Of course, I don’t think their responses were healthy and I don’t accept their lack of empathy. I simply think that we’re at different stages of our life journeys and we’re not aligned in our emotional health or maturity.
Tired of Dating/Relationship Lessons?
What inspired today’s blog post is one woman’s comment in a digital nomads Facebook page.
There was a post about dating and how depleting the experience can be. The woman commented about how both men and women are feeling exhausted of the current dating scene and hate the process.
She also mentioned something about feeling tired of having back-to-back negative dating experiences and relationship lessons. And that after a while, all she wants is the real thing.
I want to say that her words resonated with me so much, because I was in her place a few years ago.
Then, I did a lot of research into dating skills and I learned about the dating rules. I also realized that I was making all the dating mistakes that are leading to my negative experiences or lessons.
Once I started following the dating rules and practicing everything that I learned from my extensive research on the topic, I started to attract high quality men and to have successful dating experiences.
What I mean by successful dating experiences is exactly that. I don’t mean that I’ve had relationships come out of these successful dating experiences. These experiences were successful because I felt confident and I knew what I was doing and how I was presenting myself in those video dates.
Another reason that I enjoyed dating after doing the inner work and learning the dating rules is that there were no painful or confusing encounters. Everything was on an emotionally healthy level and the communication was always clear and direct.
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Are you dating? Are you feeling tired or hopeless from the whole process? Are you tired of the lessons and want the real thing?
Let me know in the comments about your dating experiences and thoughts on this topic!
Love,
Leela
